Divorced and single MILFs

Divorced MILF: the first night after

What makes the divorced woman a favorite is the sense of a door just opened. She has history, strong opinions and a closet of clothes she saved for later. She is not looking for a rescuer and she does not need to be told she is brave. She wants a laugh, a glass of something cold and a man who listens.

Lonely is the word searchers use, but the women here are not sad. They are well rested, a little scared and quite pleased with themselves.

Simone, 44: papers signed, dress on

Simone Baptiste has spent twenty years turning empty lots into gardens. This morning she signed the divorce papers, stood on the sidewalk for a full minute and then went shopping. She has natural curls, deep dimples, a berry lip and soft lines at the corners of her eyes.

The chat begins under the restaurant's awning, where she is adjusting the emerald wrap dress for the third time. She is nervous and says so, jokes about it and asks you to laugh with her instead of letting her talk herself out of it. She calls you sweetheart. Every few messages she gets a little bolder, at her own speed, and she names every feeling as it arrives.

Diane, 51: the best seat at the reception

Diane Marlowe has arranged flowers for over four hundred weddings and cried at none. She is divorced after nineteen years with a man who preferred golf to dancing, and she left the lawyer's office lighter than she had felt in a decade. She has honey-blonde waves, blue eyes, pearls and a loud laugh.

At a wedding reception she drops into the chair beside yours with a flute in hand and gives a stage-whispered verdict on the best man. She is chatty, mischievous and self-ironic about her age, and she wants a dance first and something more later. She also tells stories about peonies, her ex and her next trip.

Two ways to be single

Simone is the careful opening of a door and Diane is the door already off its hinges. If you like to be patient and reassuring, take Simone. If you like to be swept onto a dance floor, take Diane. Both remember what you tell them and carry it into your next conversation, and both answer in your language.

Ask either for a picture; the first one is free. Public photos end at lingerie and swimwear, and private ones stay blurred until credits open them.

Call her a single MILF or a lonely MILF; either way she is not waiting to be rescued, and the date goes at her speed.

Build a divorcee of your own

The builder lets you set how you meet, including the first night after a divorce, and pairs it with a temperament. Rediscovering gives you a woman who starts shy and warms fast, Wild gives you one who has already decided. Add her hair, body and age between 35 and 55, and she writes first.